Don’t let your reasons stop you!

by Gladys Diaz

I’ve been preparing and practicing my presentations for The Irresistible Woman Seminar today and I’ve been thinking of you non-stop!  So I decided to cut a quick video for you and then right back to my work!


I can’t help that you keep coming to mind! Every time that I read a really powerful point or one of the heart-shifting exercises we are going to be doing this weekend, it makes me sad to think that may not be there!
 

I don’t know what has had you not sign up until now, but I do know one thing about you. The fact that you took the time to open the email and even read this far means that you know how committed Michelle and I are to providing you with the information that we know is going to make a difference in your love life and relationships!

How do I know that? Because you wouldn’t be a part of this community if you weren’t!

So, whatever has been stopping you from attending, I just want you to ask yourself if it really is something insurmountable, “unfixable,” or life-threatening.

If it’s not, then I’m going to ask you to do something I consistently invite my clients to do.

I invite you to be UN-reasonable!

That means I’m inviting you to stop letting your “reasons” stand in the way of having what you want!

Here’s the thing, when you really want something – a nice car or outfit, a vacation, or to reach a goal, you figure out a way to make it happen.

Family members might tell you not to do it.

Your friends may tell you you’re crazy to do it.

You may even question your own sanity.

But you do it. Because it matters to you.

If your love life matters to you, if you truly want to be in a relationship where you feel adored, and you know that you know that you are love, then I’m inviting you to put those reasons that are stopping you aside and join us for The Irresistible Woman Seminar.

It’s going to be at least a year until we have this event again.

Do you really want to keep putting your happiness, your dreams, and the love that you want on hold?

I hope not!

So, push past your excuses, be UN-reasonable and join us for a weekend that is going to have you put an end to the loneliness, frustration, and “suffering” you’ve been experiencing in love and relationships.

Just click on the link below and join us!

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P.S. If you need support, reach out to me (gladys@heartsdesireintl.com). I can’t help you if I don’t know what you need!


Stop Selling Out When it Comes to Love

by Gladys Diaz

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Time to bust another myth about why successful women can’t succeed in love!

 

If you read the previous blog post, you know that I touched upon another very common myth about how,  in order to have a relationship, a successful woman will have to settle.  

 

There is a pervasive belief that a successful woman will either have to settle for someone who is not as successful, someone she’s not that crazy about, or someone who’s not intimidated by her success. 

 

All of these beliefs come from the fear of not being able to have it all – everything your heart desires. If you believe that what you want is “too much,” “too good to be true,” or “unrealistic,” then you’ll do one of two things: You’ll either try to minimize your desires, or you’ll make your expectations so insurmountable that there’s little chance of sharing your life with someone who is able to meet all of them.

 

Let me address minimizing your desires first.

 

One desire that successful women often deny is the desire to be in a loving relationship.  They will say that they are perfectly happy alone – that they don’t need a man in their lives.  

 

If they are single, they will put dating at the bottom of their very busy to-do list.  

 

If they are in relationships, they begin to think that it’s better to move on alone than to try to make the relationship work.

 

First, it is important that you are happy with yourself and your life, whether or not you have a man to share it with.  You’re 100% responsible for your own happiness, and a woman who is content with her life is confident and attractive.

 

However, if you do want to share your life with someone and you’re saying that you don’t because you’re afraid that you won’t find the right guy, it feels safer for you to be alone than to risk opening your heart to someone or to put effort into making the relationship work, then you’re not being real with yourself and that has a profound impact on how you experience life and love. 

 

See, anytime you deny one of your heart’s desires, you are selling out on yourself – you’re denying what’s true for you.  

 

When you do that, even if you have tons of success in other areas of your life, you will feel unfulfilled, because you won’t have what you really want. You are, in essence, being inauthentic with yourself.  And, if you’re not being real with yourself, you won’t be able to be real with someone else and you will likely attract to yourself someone who is not authentic with you, either. (Prepare yourself for heartache.)

 

The second way you could sabotage your love life is by setting unrealistic expectations. 

 

These expectations will either be about what the “perfect man” has to be like, do, or have, or what the “perfect relationship” must be like. 

 

I often say, “Perfectionism is poison.”  Expecting a person, situation or relationship to be perfect is setting yourself up to be disappointed.

 

Now, this doesn’t mean that you settle for just anyone. That would be another way of selling out on yourself and your desires.  What it means is that you open yourself up to the possibility that you can have a happy, loving relationship with a man who doesn’t meet every point on your “Quality Assurance List” — a perfectly imperfect man.

 

Rather than focusing on all of the external characteristics a man must meet – height, weight, salary, car, home, etc. – focus on what you want to experience in the relationship, instead.  Put your thoughts and intentions into how you want to feel in the relationship.  This way, when you are out with a man, you are focused on you, instead of him.  This also allows you to be open to meeting and getting to know more men, so that you increase your chances of meeting the right one.

 

If you are in a relationship, you can begin to let go of all of the expectations that are having you complain about, criticize, and trying to change your man. Instead, you can shift your focus from feeling disappointed to getting present to and appreciating the man he is and the qualities about him that had you fall in love with him in the first place!  It also means learning the feminine skill of saying what would make you happy, rather than pointing out all of the things that don’t!

 

Many of these skills and practices don’t come easily to an independent woman, because it requires letting go of being in complete control and managing everything on your own.  It means being okay with uncertainty and imperfection.  It means acknowledging just how much you really do want to share your life with a man who will love and adore you, celebrate and share your success. 

 

But these skills are necessary if you want to create a loving, intimate, passionate relationship where you get to be authentic with yourself and experience the love you truly want!

 

That’s why Michelle and I created The Irresistible Woman Seminar.  We are committed to equipping successful women with the skills that will empower you to have the loving relationship you want.

 

You don’t have to settle for less than you truly want and deserve.  You really CAN have it all!  And we want to show you how!

 

During this 2-day seminar we will cover:

  • The behaviors and skills that help propel you at work but repel love, connection, and partnership in a relationship
  • The steps you can take to create  shift in yourself so that you can experience success in love
  • The keys to having the type of relationship you want and deserve

And so much more!

 

Because we love and appreciate you being part of our community, we are offering you a simply irresistible deal! But you need to act fast, because prices go up soon and we don’t want you to miss out on this opportunity! 

 

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This is our way of saying thank you and honoring you for the commitment you are making to yourself and your love life!

 

Nothing would make us happier than to see you experiencing the success in love we know you can have, so that we can celebrate it with you! 

 

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Are You Settling for Less?

by Gladys Diaz

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One of the biggest fears women I speak to have is that they are going to have to “settle” for less than they want or deserve. 

 

The fear of having to settle for something or someone stems from a scarcity mindset that has you believe you can’t really have it all, that you want “too much,” and that “at least something is better than nothing.”

 

This fear of settling will impact the way you view and listen to people and situations, the way you approach dating and relationships, and the way you go about making your dreams come true.

Think about it. 

 

If you’re feeling stuck in your love life, and there’s an underlying belief that you really can’t have the life, career, and the loving relationship that you want, how committed are you going to be to going after your dreams?

 

How willing will you be to push and break through the resignation, sadness and frustration that can show up when you’re not seeing the results that you want right away?

 

How is all of this fear and resignation showing up in your life today?

 

Are you in the relationship that you want?

 

If you are in a relationship, is it the happy, loving, and passionate you dreamed it would be?

 

Do you really believe you can have the kind of relationship your heart desires?

 

If you’ve been living life inside of the fear that you’ll have to settle because you’re not going to get what you want anyway, it’s time to turn that thinking pattern around and start  attracting into your life what you really want!

 

 

What if you didn’t have to settle?  What if you really could have everything your heart desires?

 

Well, last week, our friend, Melissa Binkley and I hosted a teleclass where I shared how you can do just that!

 

If you didn’t join us on the call, I’m going to invite you to listen to the teleclass today and begin to shift that scarcity-based fear into an empowering and abundant-based reality!

 

And to prove how committed we are to you living from a space of abundance, we shared an incredible (CRAZY) offer with you that is only being made available to the women in our communities!

 

That’s how committed we are to you having the success, health, happiness, and LOVE your heart desires!

 

So, listen to the teleclass, because the offer is about to expire (you’ll hear why on the call)!

 

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And, once you’ve taken us up on the offer, let me know, because I have another special bonus just for YOU!

 

That’s the kind of thing that starts happening when you step out of scarcity and step into living in abundance!

 

Let’s see just how ready you really are to have it ALL!

Your path to having it ALL beings with believing you CAN have it!  

Read on if your READY to transform you mind, body, heart and soul!

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Another Reason Successful Women Struggle in Love

by Gladys Diaz

 

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As a successful woman, you know that most goals require a few key components:

 

Time

Attention

Effort

 

It’s nearly impossible to attain any goal without these. 

 

Stop for a moment and think about one of the goals you’ve accomplished in your life of which you are most proud. 

 

How much time did you put into attaining that goal?

How much attention did you give it?

How much effort went into making sure you achieved the goal?

 

Now, think about this: Was it worth it?

 

If the goal was something that is important to you, I can guarantee that the answer to the last question is a resounding “YES!”

 

When we achieve a goal that is important to us – one of our heart’s desires – the time, attention, and effort we put into it seems worth it once we have what we set out to accomplish.

Why is it, then, that, when it comes to love, most women, including successful, goal-driven women, believe that “Love should just happen”?

 

I can’t tell you how many women tell me they want to be in a loving, committed relationship, but they don’t want to date.

 

Or that, if it’s meant to be, the right man will just somehow magically “show up” in their lives.

 

Or they want to turn their marriages or relationships around, but they don’t feel they should have to be the one making the changes.

 

 

Now, those of you who know Michelle and me know that we believe in the power of intention, visualization, and attraction.  What you can see, feel, and believe can manifest!

 

However, there is a difference between being intentional and being hopeful.

 

You may hope to meet a great man.  You may hope to turn your relationship around.  

 

Hope is a powerful thing.

 

However, hope without action is nothing more than a wish.

 

When you are being intentional about something, you are not only thinking about or envisioning it, but you are taking actions that are consistent with that intention. Your thoughts, words, actions, and ways of being are all aligned with that intention, which means everything you think, say, and do is thought, said, and done with the intention of attaining that desired goal.

 

So, if you’re resisting taking steps to turn your love life around, I want you to ask yourself this question:

 

Is the pain, frustration, and loneliness worth it?

 

See, if you’re not doing anything to change the situation, all the complaining, wishing, and dreaming is not going to make a bit of difference.

 

You’ve got to be willing to do something that is going to pull you forward, in the direction of your desired goal.

 

Now, the effort doesn’t have to be “hard” or painful.”

 

You want to take the right steps in the right sequence so that you are not wasting your time, attention and effort.

 

Just as in your career or business, taking the right steps at the right time and in the right order improve your chances for success dramatically!  Anything else is, as they say, like throwing spaghetti at the wall and hoping it sticks!

 

So what are some of the steps you can take to get on track and headed in the direction of making yourself, your happiness, and your love life a priority?  If you’re a successful professional woman, some of these steps will seem familiar!  But, just as in business, knowing what they are and not doing them, makes absolutely NO difference!

 

 

  1. Set a clearly defined goal for what you want to achieve.  You want to be crystal-clear about the experience you want to have in a relationship.  Not what you want him to have, look, or be like, but what you want to experience, know and feel when you are in the kind of loving relationship you want to have.

 

 

  1. Create a plan of action that propels you in the direction of your desired goal.  Think about where you want to be a year from now.  In order to be in that place – in a committed relationship, engaged to be married, on a romantic getaway with your spouse where you renew your vows to love one another for life – whatever it is, what would necessarily have to be in place a month prior to that?  3 months prior? 6 months prior? 9 months prior? TODAY?

 

Working backwards in 3-month increments, write down your milestones. 

Beneath each milestone, write down 3 action steps you will take, including the steps you will take TODAY.

 

 

  1. TAKE ACTION. Writing down what you are going to do and then not do them is a sure-fire recipe for not achieving your goal.  Inaction is an action. It’s just not an action that is going to take you in the direction of your desired goal.  Staying stuck and feeling frustrated about it is just more whining, moaning, and complaining, which is not going to make a difference for you at all!

 

 

If you’re not clear about which steps to take or which ones you should take first, then here’s your first step: Speak with someone who can guide you!  Because, the truth is that unless you’re getting direction from someone who’s been there, has the results you want and is as committed as you are to seeing you achieve your dreams, then you’re just going to be even more frustrated and exhausted, and you’ll simply reinforce the fears and limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck where you are for so long! 

 

So, how can you take action toward get the support and guidance you need TODAY?

 

 

  1. Work with a relationship coach who has the result you want and can help you achieve your goal.And, yes, I’m absolutely talking about reaching out to Michelle and me for support.  I know we can help you break through this block if you’re ready to be coached and started TODAY!  Now, here’s the thing.  You may not feel 100% ready. You probably feel a bit nervous or afraid about finally committing to making a change.  That’s perfectly natural. The great thing about working with a coach is that I can help you deal with and dismantle those fears so that you can begin moving forward!  You’re no longer in this all alone!

 

 

  1. Learn the steps you need to take to achieve your desired goal.  One of the best ways to do that is to attend a seminar that will help you get started on the path to reaching that goal. We are hosting The Irresistible Woman Seminar in a few weeks.  Make one of your TODAY goals to click below and register for that event TODAY.

 

 

As a matter of fact, I want to see if you’re really serious about committing to getting started on this action plan.  If you are, you can click and use this special link to get 50% off the ticket price.

 

And, if you do Steps 1 and 2, we’ll give you this ticket for FREE!

 

How’s that for committed action?

 

That’s how serious we are about supporting you in reaching your desired goal!

 

 

Remember, loving, passionate, intimate relationships – just like any worthwhile goal –  don’t “just happen.”

 

They are created and nurtured every single day.

 

Focus your time, attention, and effort on having the love, happiness, and success your heart desires!

 

Get clear, create your plan, and take action.

 

Get started now by setting up a time to talk and joining us at the Irresistible Woman Seminar!

 

We promise you, having the relationship you want is worth it!


 

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Why Successful Women Struggle in Love

by Gladys Diaz

De-Mythifying Common Myths About Why Successful Women Can’t Succeed in Love

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I don’t usually like to rant or curse, but I absolutely have to call BS on this!

I am so tired of reading articles and hearing people talk about how successful, intelligent, strong women can’t find or keep love. Honestly, it’s like nails on a chalkboard to me!

Aside from the fact that it is a complete insult to women who are successful, strong, accomplished and in happy loving relationships, I don’t know if people realize just how damaging continuing to repeat that type of nonsense to yourself—and others— is!

Repeating limiting phrases like, “Men are intimidated by powerful women,” “Smart women have a hard time finding a man who won’t be threatened by them,” and “Successful women are better off being alone than being with a man who is’ beneath’ them,” perpetuates the very thing that successful women don’t want, which is to find themselves frustrated, lonely, and with no one with whom to share their success.

The truth is that there are men out there who are looking for, excited by, and attracted to women who are confident and successful!  In fact, studies show that the thing men are most attracted to in a woman (besides her smile) is her confidence.

Now, are there men out there who might feel a little insecure about dating a woman is more successful than them?

Yes.

However, it’s also true that there are many men out there who would rather be with a woman who is ambitious, passionate, secure in herself and her abilities, and who also allows him the opportunity to contribute, love, and add to her happiness.

In the next few articles, I’ll be sharing five common misconceptions about successful women when it comes to love relationships, and what you can do to turn your limiting beliefs into powerful affirmations that will have you attract the type of love that you want into your life and continue to strengthen the love you already have in your relationship.

Myth #1: Men are intimidated by powerful women.

Truth: Men are intimidated by intimidating women.

As I mentioned before, confidence is very appealing to men. Few things are more attractive or alluring than a woman who is loves and accepts herself and acknowledges her value! When a confident woman steps into the room, there is a sense of self-assurance and fulfillment that draws people to her – not away from her.

What is intimidating, on the other hand, is arrogance.  There is a very fine line between feeling confident about yourself and believing that who you are and the things you have achieved somehow make you better than someone else. This is repelling to both men and women alike.

Of course it’s fine to talk about the things you are proud of and the goals you have for the future. However, when sharing your accomplishments and accolades, be wary of coming across as arrogant and condescending.

Now, before you get upset about what I just said, hear me out.

There’s nothing wrong with letting a man know what your successes are, what you’ve accomplished, and what you’re up to in life, because ultimately, what you want is to share those successes with him.

What you don’t want to do, whether it’s on a date or with your romantic partner, is to have your message come across as “I’ve got this all handled by myself and don’t need or want anyone or anything else – including you – to add to the success and happiness in my life.”

The bottom line is that men want to feel needed. They want to know that even if you’ve got an amazing life, there’s something they can add to it to make it even better.

This doesn’t make men “needy” or “insecure,” any more than wanting to be loved and desired make us women “needy” or “insecure.” Men and women are simply wired differently, and part of making a relationship work means understanding and accepting those differences and doing what we can to give one another what each wants and needs.

So, the next time you’re sharing with a man your goals, accomplishments, and the things you love about yourself, remember to share in such a way that you are also extending an invitation to share those successes with him, should he be interested in being part of your extraordinary life!

 

P.S. If you’re a successful, professional woman who wants to experience success in both your love life and your career, grab your ticket for The Irresistible Woman Seminar while Early Bird prices and the 2-payment option is still available!

 

Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!

 

In the next article, I’ll be de-mythifying Myth #2: Successful women have to settle for someone less successful than them.


Making and Keeping Agreements Are Keys to Strengthening Your Relationship

by Gladys Diaz

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Monday was my first day back after a week off for vacation, and I’m excited!

 

It wasn’t always this way for me. I used to dread having to go back to work after being on vacation. I would think of reasons/excuses to give my boss for not having to go in that first day. I’d dread looking at my inbox and having to deal with everything that didn’t get done while I was away.

That was then…

Now, however, I absolutely love what I do and I love the women I work with, and, since it doesn’t seem like “work,” I have to be really aware of how I manage my time when I’m on vacation so that I can really take time off to relax, replenish, and renew my mind, body, and spirit before heading back to the office.

One of the concerns I get from professional women is that they fear their partner won’t understand and feel comfortable with their drive and determination when it comes to their careers. They worry that their partners will somehow feel “threatened” or intimidated by their success.

That’s why one of the ways I create harmony between my work and personal life is by making agreements – both with myself and my husband.

See, my husband knows how much my clients mean to me. He knows that, if they are in the middle of a crisis in their relationships, it wouldn’t sit right with me to just ignore them because I’m on vacation. He also knows that I’m in the middle of planning two huge projects, and, if something came up around them, I’d need to at least be aware of it in order to delegate the issue to someone else.

What my husband also knows beyond a shadow of a doubt is that he and the boys mean more to me than anything else, and that I consider the time I spend with them precious.

So, before going on vacation, we agreed on what our days would look like and what I would do to manage anything that might come up regarding work. This way, rather than being on the phone checking email all day long, I had had certain times designated when I would check in, look to see what I needed to respond to, and the rest of the time was 100% family fun time!

By creating and honoring an agreement about what I would do/not do while on vacation, I took 100% responsibility for my happiness and for the work that would/would not get done that week. I also sent the message to my husband and kids that they are my priority and that, after those few minutes when I did work during the day, they had my undivided attention.

Because of this agreement, I didn’t have to feel “guilty” about answering or not answering an email. I kept to my schedule and did everything I could to be present with and enjoy the time I spent with my in-loves (my term for “in-laws).

The even better part was that, because my intention was to be fully present with my family and I was willing to work a little harder and longer the 2 weeks prior to vacation, I actually had very little I had to attend to work-wise during the week! (It’s just like it says in one of the books I finished reading while on vacation, The Alchemist: “…when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it”!)

In this case, the universe, my family, my team, and I conspired to make sure that I had a fun a restful vacation! But it didn’t “just happen.” Like everything else in life that it is important, it took setting a clear intention and planning!

 

A relationship is a partnership.

Creating agreements with your partner is one of the essential keys to making that partnership work. When making agreements, keep these things in mind:

  1. Only promise what you fully intend to fulfill. It’s important that you determine what you are willing to do and that you fully intend to honor the agreement.

 

  1. Keep the agreement. Even more important than making an agreement is keeping the agreement. In honoring the agreement, you send the message to your partner that he can trust you to honor your word (in this case, as well as in the rest of the relationship).
The truth is that the majority of the problems in relationships can be traced back to one or both of the partners not having kept a promise or agreement that was made.

Does this mean you’ll never break a promise or that you’ll keep every single agreement you ever make?

No.

The goal, of course, is to strive for that. But, if you fail to keep an agreement, follow these steps.

  1. Acknowledge that the agreement wasn’t kept. Don’t ignore the broken agreement or pretend as if nothing happened. Honor yourself and your partner by acknowledging how the agreement was broken.
  2. Apologize for whatever you did on your end to break the agreement.
  3. Make a new agreement (keeping in mind that you fully intend to honor it this time).
  4. Do everything in your power to honor the agreement.

 

Your relationship is the most important partnership you’ll ever have.  

While this doesn’t mean you won’t have other partnerships or projects that are important to you, it does mean that striving to make that partnership work needs to be a daily priority.  Making and keeping agreements is one way to make sure your partnership works!

 

Questions?  Comments?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!


Three Key Ingredients to Having it ALL!

by Gladys Diaz

You may have noticed that I’ve been a little “quieter” than usual over the past couple of weeks. There is a very GOOD reason for that!

See, Michelle and I are working on some really great and yummy things for you, all while I was also planning a week-long vacation with my family and family-in-love (my hubby’s brother, sister-in-love, and my mother-in-love)!

As a wife, mother, and entrepreneur, it’s important to me that I build my business around my family.

Do I want to succeed? YES!

Do I want to make a difference in the world? YES!

Do I want to be the best wife and mother I can be? YES!

Now, some people might say that it’s “humanly impossible” to do and succeed in all of these areas at the same time.

I call BS on that!

It IS possible to have BOTH a thriving and successful business/career and a loving, passionate relationship, if that’s your true intention.

Now, is it always “easy” to have it all? NO.

To take this week off and spend as much time playing, laughing, and relaxing with my family, it took some pre-planning, putting things in motion, and being willing to work a little longer than I usually do.

It took reaching out to my coaches and mastermind sisters to get the support and encouragement I needed to believe that I COULD complete my projects AND have time to play with my family.

It took letting my family know that I would be putting in longer hours and be more focused on my work for one week so that I could have fun with them for another.

It took asking for help and support from my team – both Team Diaz and Team Heart’s Desire – and letting go of the things I could not control.

And you know what? It worked!Gladys & Michelle_on stage-heart_JIG WICL 2015

Everything that needed to get done prior to leaving on vacation got completed, Michelle and I had a WONDERFUL time speaking at the Jazz in the Gardens Women’s Impact Conference and Luncheon, where many women registered to attend The Irresistible Woman Seminar, and our virtual assistant handled all of the behind-the-scenes work for our upcoming virtual event!

When your intention is to have everything your heart desires and you’re willing to do the work to have it be so, you really CAN have it ALL!

Whether you are single and trying to figure out how to continue having a thriving career while also finding time to attract and date the man with whom you will spend your life, or you’re a woman who is married or in a relationship and you want to continue growing your business or career while also growing closer to the man you love, there are steps you can take to ensure that you are experiencing all of the love, success, and happiness you desire.

 

  1. Set a clear intention. Saying, “I want to be successful,” or “I want to be in a relationship” is not clear enough. You need to clearly define what “successful” and “a relationship” looks and feels like for you.
    1. Career intention: Does “successful” mean having a certain title or income level? Does it mean having an organization of a certain size? How many hours do you want to work? What type of lifestyle (home, vacation time and places, location) do you want to have?

 

  1. Relationship Intention: What does a successful relationship look like to you? When you close your eyes and envision yourself in the relationship of your dreams, how do you feel? What is the experience of loving and being loved that you want to have every day, for the rest of your life?

 

  1. Create a plan of action. A dream without a plan is nothing more than a wish. Once you have your clear intention begin planning from the end and work your way back.
    1. Career Plan: If you want to achieve a certain title at work in a year, what where would you need to be 2 months prior? To reach that level, at which level would you need to be 2 months prior to that, and so on. What are the steps you would need to take at each level to reach the next level? Who would you need to help support you? Have your action plan steps be as clear as the intention you set and as closely aligned to your intention as possible.

 

  1. Relationship Plan for Singles: If you want to be married in a year, and you’re not out there dating, consider that, a year from now you will probably find yourself in the same exact place you find yourself in now. So, if you want to be married in a year, where would you need to be in your relationship 2 months prior to getting engaged? How well would you need to know each other before you’d be willing to commit your life to someone? How long would you like to date him? How often would you like to see and spend time with him? Make your plan clear, allowing for joy of being pleasantly surprised, but get into action, or don’t be surprised if there’s no guy, no relationship, and no proposal a year from now!

Relationship Plan for Girlfriends and Wives: If you’re in a relationship and you’d like to experience more support for your career goals and dreams, as well as more romance and passion in your relationship, what are the things standing in the way of experiencing that now? Are you holding onto resentment, or are you ready to forgive? Are you communicating openly and authentically with your husband or boyfriend? Are you complaining about him not being supportive or inviting him to be part of your dreams? Whatever it is you want to experience in your relationship, be honest with yourself and be willing to take the action steps that will lead you in the direction of your dream!

 

  1. Get committed. One of the most critical aspects of having it ALL is your level of committed. Saying you want something and being willing to do the work it takes to have it are two completely different things! Remind yourself that this is YOUR life, YOUR dream, and WHY this is important to you.
    1. Career Commitment: Keep in mind that there are probably at least 10 other people in your company or line of work who want to achieve a high level of success. The only thing that separates the people who achieve their goals from the ones who don’t is their level of commitment, which includes persistence and resolve. Anticipate that not everything will go according to your plan, but use each setback as an opportunity to learn and catapult you in the right direction. The only reason you will have for not reaching your goal is if you quit!

 

  1. Relationship Commitment: Having a loving, passionate, intimate relationship doesn’t have to be hard work, but it does take work. Joining two separate individuals – with all of their past, history, and habits – to create one solid and successful partnership takes patience, understanding, and commitment. Everything won’t always run smoothly. You won’t always see eye-to-eye. There may be times when you wonder whether leaving is a more viable option than staying and doing the work to make your relationship work. However, the only thing that distinguishes relationships that last from those that don’t is the willingness to commit to finding a way to make things work. Assuming the man you are with is good and right for you, don’t be afraid of investing your time and heart in building a solid foundation for a love that will stand the test of time!

 

 

Having the time to relax and play with my family without worrying about having to work, check email, and wonder if my projects would get completed in time was a big enough “WHY” for me to set a clear intention about what I wanted to accomplish the past two weeks, to create a plan and put in the extra hours I needed to in order to ensure the work got done, and to commit to following the plan, even when I was tired, even when I thought I was crazy for thinking I could really make this work!

 

The results?

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Having a blast with my husband and kids, romantic moments with my husband, getting to hold my baby nephew for the first time and smother him with love and kisses, and having fun time with my family-in-love!

Yeah… I’d say it was all well-worth being able to have it ALL!

 

 

 

P.S. If you’re a successful, professional woman who wants to create a life where you can experience success in your career AND a loving, passionate relationship, make sure you join us for The Irresistible Woman Seminar while Early Bird prices and the 2-payment option is still available!

Shifting Into Your Feminine Power!

by Gladys Diaz

I don’t know if this happens to you, but I love what I do for a living!  Sometimes, especially if I’m working on a new and exciting project, I can work for hours without even noticing time go by!  This has been especially true for me this week, since the time changed and we are now an hour ahead.  The sun is bright outside my window, I look at my clock and see that it’s 7:00pm!  Enter the mad rush to get dinner on the table!

While it’s great to get lost in doing what I love, I also enjoy making time for the people and things that I love.

I love having time off to do things for myself and spend time with my family.  I love feeling a little “guilty” about snuggling up in my chaise lounge reading a book for the pure pleasure of it!  I enjoy being in the living room with my 3 guys all around me – not doing anything “special” – just being with one another.  I love that time in the evening, when it’s just my husband and me, and we can speak or kiss for 5 consecutive minutes without being interrupted! (smile)

Being a successful professional woman – whether you are single, married, or in a relationship – requires the ability to turn off “work mode,” which often involves taking on a lot of masculine energy, and turning up your feminine energy.

It means finding the sweet spot where you shift from being what Michelle and I call being “The Invincible Woman” and “The Irresistible Woman” – that strong-yet-soft-and-sensual, capable-yet-receptive, and powerful-yet-vulnerable feminine energy that is what makes you attractive and alluring to men!

If you find that it’s difficult for you to shed your Invincible Woman cape to wrap yourself in your Irresistible Woman radiance, you’ll want to join us over the next few months, because we are going to be offering several live and virtual events you can attend that will show you how to go From Invincible to Irresistible in your love life!

If you’d like a close-and-personal sneak peek of upcoming events, join Michelle and me this coming Friday, March 20th at the Jazz in the Gardens Women’s Impact Luncheon!

We will be speaking about how you can be Invincible at work and Simply Irresistible in your love life!

We’re excited to be speaking at this event which sells out year after year, sharing the secrets to becoming a Simply Irresistible Woman.

To join us, check out the information below!

Can’t make to the live event? Not to worry!  We are planning some very cool virtual events just for you so, make sure you are subscribed to receive our emails!

There IS a way you can have everything your heart desires in life, career, and love!  Let us share the secrets that we have used in our own lives and marriages to help you become a Simply Irresistible Woman in your love life!

 

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In honor of Women’s History Month and in conjunction with the 10th Annual Jazz in the Gardens Music Festival, the City of Miami Gardens will host the 2015 WOMEN’S IMPACT CONFERENCE & LUNCHEON, created in 2010. At the conference, women of varied races, creed and cultures are exposed to:

  • ideas and strategies for how to take time for self-discovery
  • essential activities associated with inspiration and motivation
  • ways women can live centered and complete lives by taking advantage of all of life’s endless possibilities.

Attendees will be entertained and engaged, as distinguished experts deliver the tips, tools and information on topics to inspire women.

Michelle and I are honored to be speaking at this created to event to inspire and empower women!

Michelle and I are honored to be speaking at this created to event to inspire and empower women!

 
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This highly anticipated, and historically “sold-out” event, will take place at the beautiful property ofMiramar Cultural Center, Miramar, Florida, from 8:00 am – 4:00 pm on Friday, March 20th, 2015!

Click here to learn more and purchase tickets TODAY!

P.S. We can’t wait to let the cat out of the bag and share some of the amazing upcoming events with you!  Keep an eye out for our emails!

 

Comments?  Questions?  Let us know below! We love hearing from you!


Why He Can’t Hear What You’re Saying

by Gladys Diaz

 

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One of the most common complaints we get from women is that they feel like they don’t know how to communicate with men. This is true for single women, as well as those who are married and in relationships. There is simply a feeling that they are not being heard.

The main problem is usually that the opposite is true.

If you’re like most women, the truth is that you’re probably talking way too much!

Stay with me, here!

As a woman, you use about three times as many words as most men in a single day.  You have the unique ability to be able to have a thought, connect a feeling to it, and connect that thought and feelings with words. And then you have the uncanny ability to speak those words – sometimes over, and over, and over again.

Usually, the over-talking comes from fear.

Fear that you won’t get what we want.

Fear that you’ll upset the other person.

Fear that you have to somehow justify why you want you want.

When those fears get in the way during conversations, over-talking is used as a way to try to convince the other person to agree with you, to pacify the other person, or to make a case for why what you want is important or necessary.

The problem is that, when you begin to talk too much, a man simply can’t hear what you are saying.

The desire, feeling, or need gets buried under a mountain of words, reasons, excuses, and justifications.

In order for him to get the point of what you are saying, your man needs to dig himself out from under all of that, which can feel overwhelming. Hence, the “glazed-over stare”!

If he feels like he is being pressured or manipulated into agreeing with something, he will resist, which will have him automatically get on the defensive. Now, you’ve become “the enemy.”

If he feels as if he’s being disrespected in any way, he’ll withdraw or completely shut down. Welcome to the cold shoulder or silent treatment.

In any of these cases, no matter how much you talk, he won’t hear you.

In fact, the more you talk, the less likely he is to hear you, because he’ll either be overwhelmed and unable to hear you, on-guard and only interested in defending himself, or shut down and disconnected from you.

Either way, you’re not getting what you want in that conversation: Connection

So, how can you speak in way where you can say what you want to say and have him hear you?

  • Get Clear.   If you know that you tend to get wordy or long-winded you speak, make sure you’re clear about what you want to say. Talk it out with a friend before you bring it to him. If you have no one to talk to at the moment, speak it into your phone and record yourself, then listen to the recording. This way, you can hear what it’s like to be on the receiving end of what you are planning to say. (This can be such an eye-opener!)

 

  • Keep it Simple. Once you’re clear about what you want to say, see if you can get it down to a 3-5 word sentence. If you can’t, consider you’re trying to say too much. Also, avoid adding reasons and justifications to what you are sharing. Keeping the message simple not only helps you feel clear about what you’re saying, but allows him to hear you more clearly.

 

  • Take a Breath. Once you’ve clearly and succinctly said what you want to say, take a breath and stop talking. If you know that’s hard for you to do, take a breath and drink some water or put some food in your mouth! I know it sounds funny, but you’re going to have to train yourself to trust that once you’ve said what you want to say clearly, he’s heard you.

 

  • Listen. If he chooses to respond, listen to what he says without interrupting, contradicting, or defending your position. Give him an opportunity to respond and say what he thinks. Remember, he may not agree. That doesn’t mean he didn’t hear you. It just means he has a different opinion or feeling about it. Just listen to what he’s saying.

 

  • Allow there to be spaces of silence. There may be times when he doesn’t immediately respond to what you’ve said. Respect the silence and don’t make it mean that something is “wrong.” Men don’t have the same ability we have to almost immediately connect thoughts to feelings and words. Their brains work differently and, many times, they need more time to process what’s been said. And, as I tell my clients: He can’t hear his thoughts if he’s only hearing yours!

 

Communication in any relationship is critical, but this doesn’t only refer to the “talking” part of the equation.

So, the next time you’re going to speak with a man, remember to get clear about what you want to say, say it simply and clearly, then take a breath and listen. I promise it will feel like a whole new experience that will lead to a lot more closeness and connection!

 

Questions? Comments? Let us know below! We love hearing from you!


More Tips on Starting to Date Again!

by Gladys Diaz

 

Wow! We received some great questions and ideas for video blogs about dating and relationships! If you have a question you’d like us to answer, just write it in the comments below and let us know what it is!

As you know, in “How to Start Dating Again, Part 1,” I gave 2 steps to take before you begin dating again. The first one – honoring your desire to be in a loving relationship – is true for both singles and single moms alike!

In this video, Michelle shares two additional tips! The first one is a “must” for all single women who are on a date, and the second tip is specific to single moms who are wondering how and when to introduce someone to their children!

Remember, if you’re not single, but you know a single mom who wants to get ready to date and love again, make sure you share the LOVE with her by sending he the link to the video

Just click the image below to view and share these tips!


 
 

You truly do deserve to have the love and happiness your heart desires, and we want to do everything we can to help you make your dreams come true!

Watch the video and, if you have a question you’d like us to answer, justpost it in the comments below, and we’ll be happy to answer it for you!!