Are You Cheating Yourself Out of Feeling Loved?

by Gladys Diaz

 

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I recently got back from a week-long vacation with my family, and I learned a lot of interesting things about myself while on this trip.

During the trip, I made a commitment to let go of control. I’ve been working pretty hard since last November, and I just wanted to relax.  I didn’t want to have to be the one making decisions, doing some of the driving, or having to handle much of anything.  My primary focus was to have as much fun as possible with my family!

In giving up control, one of the things I got to do a lot of was receiving.

Now, I teach women how one of the most powerful ways to embrace our femininity is to receive. 

Knowing that two of a man’s primary needs are to know that he can provide for and please the woman he loves, in receiving a man’s gifts, time, help, and affection, I am clear that I give my husband the gift of fulfilling on his purpose and myself the gift of feeling cherished and taken care of!  It truly is a win-win situation!

So, receiving in and of itself is not difficult for me…  

…Until it comes to really expensive or extravagant gifts.

Then I seem to get a bit uncomfortable.

While on the trip, my husband and I were presented with an opportunity to make one of my dreams come true. It’s a big dream, so, consequently, it comes with a big price tag.  Nevertheless, I have had this dream for a long time and I am the kind of person who, when I want something, I find a way to make it happen!

This time, however, my husband was the one making it happen for me!

I noticed how I got a little nervous and uncomfortable at the thought of this.

As happy as I was that my dream was coming true, I also felt a little guilty. I had all types of thoughts running through my head.

This is too much…

He’s only doing this for me. 

Maybe we should wait a while.

When it came time to make the final decision, my husband asked me, “So, what do you think?”

I could have honored and shared with him all of the feelings, fears and concerns running through my head.

I could have given him some ideas about what to do or how to handle the negotiations.

I could have told him that it was okay. Knowing that he wanted to make this happen for me was enough. I could wait.

In other words, I could have stepped in, taken over, taken charge, and not gotten what I really wanted.

But I didn’t want to. I just wanted to bask in the warmth of seeing how excited he was to be figuring out a way to make this dream happen for me

So, instead of stepping in and giving into my limiting thoughts and beliefs, I chose to step back and trust.  I chose to receive.

I simply said, “I’m so excited! I’ve wanted this for a long time. I don’t know if we ‘should’ do it, but I want this, and I know you.  You always make the best decisions for us.  And if you’re thinking of doing this, then I know you’ve thought it through, and I trust you. Thank you!”

I wish I’d had my phone ready to take a picture of my husband’s face. (smile)

He looked so happy and confident.

In that moment, I realized just how much making me happy means to him.  I mean, I knew it before, but I got really present and I could see it in that moment!

And it was awesome!

Was I still a little scared?  Yes.

Was I going to cheat him out of the pleasure of knowing he is making one of my dreams come true? Heck, no!

One of the blessings of being in a relationship with a man who truly loves you is being able to openly receive his love – even when it makes you a little uncomfortable. 

Receiving is a gift you give yourself and the person who is giving to you.

In allowing my husband to provide me with something he knew I wanted, I gave him the gift of seeing my happiness and gratitude.

In allowing myself to receive the gift, I was able to experience seeing the joy that he experiences when he’s able to make me happy.

It’s not the type or size of the gift that makes the difference, either.

Yes, this happened to be something big, but I also have the pleasure of receiving compliments; “I love you’s”; “for-no-reason-roses” (those roses he shows up with for absolutely no reason!); as well as offers to help me do the dishes, make dinner, and watch the boys so I can go get my hair done.  All of these things make me feel happy and loved

So, what about you? How open are you to receiving?

  • Are you dismissing or joking away compliments?
  • Are you refusing to allow people – especially men – to open doors, carry objects, or help you with a task that needs to get done?
  • Are you refusing gifts – both big and small – such as offers to pay for your coffee or meal, tickets to an event, or something you’ve been wanting for a long time?

Given that men thrive on feeling like they can provide for and please the woman they care about, when you receive, you are stepping into one of the highest states of your Feminine Essence! It creates a win-win experience for both of you, as he gets to feel great about making you happy and you get to experience feeling cherished!

If you aren’t having that kind of experience in your relationship – either because you are single or because the romance, tenderness, and intimacy in your relationship have been slowly (or quickly) deteriorating, know that you CAN have it!

This isn’t something special reserved for a few “lucky” women, and you aren’t the one woman in the world destined to not have this experience.

If you want to know what it’s like to love and be loved, to be cared for and taken care of (even though you are capable of taking care of yourself), and to have the feeling that your partner’s top priority is making you happy, then let’s set up time to talk.

During a Love Breakthrough Session you will see what has been standing in the way of you having the kind of love and relationship you dream of.  Then we give you a plan for removing that love barrier and making a way for love to flow freely into your life.

You can either keep feeling sorry for yourself, blaming the man you are with for not having this kind of experience, or you can learn the steps you can take to turn your love life and your situation around.

It’s up to you!

There is nothing like the feeling that comes with knowing that the man you are with wants nothing more than to know that he had something to do with the smile on your face!  It’s time to make that smile permanent!

Click here to schedule time to talk!

Questions? Comments?  Let us know below!  We love hearing from you!


The KEY to Having the Love You Want!

by Gladys Diaz

 

If you have been reading our emails lately, you know that we are getting ready to start the Ready to Love Again program – the program that is designed to have you get ready to attract extraordinary love into your life! 

The first session of the program is tomorrow, Tuesday, August 11th, and we’re inviting you to join the amazing group of women who have made the decision to finally claim the love and happiness their hearts desire!

The response to the number of women who want to learn more about the program has been so great that we are doing something special for you this week!

I went ahead and recorded a short presentation for you tell you a little bit more about why you want to be part of this program, so that you can go ahead and schedule time to speak with us right away!

Just click on the image below, and it will take you right to the presentation!

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If you’re thinking that you’ll come back to this email and watch later, we both know what’s going to happen!

You’re going to get busy, forget, and then remember when we send the email letting everyone know that the program is full and the doors are closed until next year!

So, just stop what you’re doing, make 10 minutes (okay, 13 minutes) for yourself and watch this presentation now!

 

Then CLICK HERE to schedule time to talk with one of us!


How to “Short-Circuit” Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns

by Gladys Diaz

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Few things can be more detrimental to relationships than dysfunctional patterns.  Repeating the same painful experiences over and over again can be exhausting and can make you believe that perhaps there’s nothing you can do to change the results you keep producing!

Learning how to end dysfunctional patterns is one of the first things Michelle and I teach women because, until you address the underlying issues, thoughts, actions, and behaviors that have harmed your relationships in the past, you will continue to repeat them, no matter who your partner is!

So, ask yourself these questions:

Do you keep attracting the same type of man?

Do you keep having the same argument with your partner?

Do you keep having the same outcome, no matter who you are dating?

Do you keep experiencing heartache after heartache and wondering why the same thing keeps happening to you

In today’s video, I teach you the first step in “short-circuiting” a dysfunctional relationship pattern so that you can begin to experience fun, peace and LOVE in your relationships!

Click the image below to watch now!

 

 

 

This is just the first step in learning how break a dysfunctional behavior pattern once and for all. If you want to discuss your next steps, click below to schedule time to talk with me!

  1. CLICK HERE to schedule time to talk.
  2.  Tell me what dysfunctional pattern you’d like to break in the comment box.
  3. Come to your call ready to have a real breakthrough!

What to Do After a Relationship Ends

by Gladys Diaz

I’m keeping this post short and sweet because we are on vacation and my kids are waiting for me to go do something fun! 

However, I just had to take a few minutes to write because I wanted to tell you about two things!

First, we just heard that we have another new bride!  That’s right, another one of our clients just got married this past weekend!  (It’s getting so that it’s hard to keep count!)

It’s so amazing to see her dreams coming true after all the years she questioned and wondered whether that day would ever come for her!

THIS is why Michelle and I do what we do. THIS is why we are so incredibly committed to you moving beyond all of your fears and excuses and just breaking through the BS that has you feeling like you are stuck where you are.  Because THIS is what’s possible for YOU when you do!

I want you to get really honest with yourself as you ask yourself these questions:

Is it really possible that there are “no good men” out there? 

Or is it more likely that you haven’t attracted the good man who is right for you yet?

 

Is it really true that you can’t get over your ex?

Or is it that you are so afraid of having your heart broken again that you’ll just stay stuck on him to avoid having to get out there, meet people, and open your heart to loving someone again?

 

Is it really that you are just so busy with your career or business, your travel schedule, going out with your friends, etc.?

Or is it that you are so terrified of failing at love that you’d rather tell yourself that you’re “okay,” your life is already great, and there’s no need or desire for you to share it with someone else?

 

Look, my job is not to make you feel badly about where you are in your life, because I do believe that you need to be happy on your own before you can attract someone who will add to that happiness. 

But here’s the deal. It’s NOT that there aren’t any good guys, it’s NOT that you can’t get over your ex, and it’s NOT that your life is already so busy and fulfilled that you feel you don’t need a man with whom to share it.

All that stuff is NOT what is keeping you stuck!

What’s keeping you stuck where you are is all the stuff you keep telling yourself so that you don’t have to take the steps you need to take to have the love you really want.

I get it.  I’m a successful woman, too, and I don’t like failing any more than you do.

 

However, I’d much rather take a risk than be a victim of my circumstances and cheat myself out of the possibility of having everything my heart desires. 

 

Because failing sucks, but it doesn’t suck nearly as much as regret, which is what you feel when you look back and see that the only thing that really stood in the way of having the love and life you wanted was YOU!

 

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So, just in case one of your “reasons” for not having the love you want is that you can’t seem to move on from your past breakup, I wanted to share with you the recording of a radio show we did a few weeks ago with our very good friend, Simone Kelly, of Own Your Power Radio.  The show was about “Starting Over When It’s Over,” and you’ll hear some great advice on the things you can do to move on after a breakup, divorce, or losing your partner.

 

Here’s my invitation:

  1. Answer the questions above (be honest with yourself).
  2. Listen to the radio show.
  3. Then CLICK HERE and let us know that you are ready to have a conversation about moving on in a powerful way so that you can begin to have the love and happiness your heart desires! 

If you’re ready to start over, listen to our discussion and see which step you’re ready to take!

 

P.S. Michelle only has a few spots left on her calendar this week while I’m vacation! If you haven’t had the chance to be coached by Michelle, this is an opportunity you don’t want to miss! 

She’s one of the most powerful coaches I’ve ever worked with and was MY coach when Ric and I were having issues in our marriage!  Don’t miss out and sign up to speak with her now!

Click here to schedule time to talk NOW!


She Broke Through Her Fears and Attracted New Love!

by Gladys Diaz

I just finished doing a wonderful meditation that was has really inspired me to take a step I’ve been resisting taking for a while.  

 

It’s not that I didn’t know what step to take. It’s not that I felt I couldn’t or wasn’t capable of taking the step.

 

The truth is, I was just afraid of taking it.

 

So, what did I do?  I did the fear exercise that we teach in the Ready to Love Again program!  I went through it, step by step, and, in just a few minutes, I was in a space where I felt empowered to take the step that had been stopping me!  

 

This exercise is so powerful!

 

In fact, I just received a testimonial from one of our Ready to Love Again graduates, Kristin, who is now in a very happy, loving relationship after being single for many years and sharing with me on more than one occasion how she questioned if she would ever be able to attract love into her life. 

 

Here’s what Kristin wrote to me:

 

“Before the program, my dating life was frustrating. I had been doing online dating and no matterKristin & Boyfriend1 how many rewrites I had of my profile, I wasn’t attracting what I wanted. I found myself wanting to cut the guy out of my life the first sign there was a problem. I knew that this would not be appropriate behavior being married, as that’s a very big commitment. I thought that I was definitely ready for love, though.

 

 

The fear exercise was huge for me. This is where I saw a lot of my breakthroughs in the program.  I actually found out that with the “story” I was telling myself all about my “failures,” I was making myself the victim. (Poor me, poor me.)  Instead of looking at the situation and staying in the present:  This is what it is. It’s nothing else.

 

There were several times fears came up, and I did the fear exercise. That would help me stay “present” and be able to let go of my fear. Sometimes I’ve had to do the exercise more than once.  Sometimes I had to go deeper and learn what my true triggers are so I can work on that specific trigger.  

 

How am I and this relationship different?  For starters, this is the longest relationship I have had in my entire life!

 

 

During the program, I was able to make a list of what I wanted to experience during courtship with a man.  I will tell you this: I have seen every one of those things I listed with this man!”

Kristin got clear about what her fears were and used the tools in the Ready to Love Again program to help her break through them and attract the relationship she thought she’d never find!

 

I don’t know what your fears are or what has been stopping you from attracting the love that you want.  

 

What I do know is that Michelle and I can help you break through those fears so that you can have the love that you want and deserve!  We’ve helped women around the world do this and we can help you, too! 

 

But you have to let us!

 

So, here’s the deal:

 

  • The Ready to Love Again Webinar replay  is only available until Midnight Easter Time tonight, so you only have a few more hours to listen to the incredible information we share about how to let go of the past, break through your fears (like Kristin did), and allow love to enter your life!
  • I only have 6 more slots available tomorrow (Thursday) to speak with women who are interested in learning about the Ready to Love Again program, and Michelle only has 1 spot left!

 

You have a choice.  You can stay stuck in fear, or you can take a step in the direction of having the love you say you want.

 

The choice is yours!

 

So, go ahead:

 

  1. Watch the reply of “Ready to Love Again: Moving Beyond Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires”before it the link expires at midnight Eastern time TONIGHT.

 

 

  1. CLICK HEREor on the button you’ll see on the Webinar screen to schedule time to speak with one of us before the spots are all taken! (I’m leaving on vacation on Friday and would hate for you to have to wait to start making your dreams come true!)

 

I’m telling you, there is nothing more empowering than knowing that you are no longer allowing fear to stop you and that you’re taking responsibility for creating your happiness into your own hands!

 

We know you’re scared. What you need to know is that we’re here for you and we’ll be there for you every step of the way!

 

Watch the replay, schedule time to speak with one of us, and let’s make your dreams come true!


How She Went from Heartbreak to Loving Again!

by Gladys Diaz

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Nothing makes us happier than when we see one of our clients in a happy, loving relationship – especially when her belief when she started working with was that it would never happen for her!

This is what happened for our client, Melisa! Those of you who were on our list last year may have heard Melisa’s incredible coaching conversation with Michelle. Melisa had gotten out of a painful breakup with her boyfriend who had cheated on her and, a week later, was already with someone else.  She was feeling hurt and wondered if anyone would ever really love and accept her fully.

Melisa shared how she had a pattern of ignoring the red flags she saw early in relationships and attracting men who were liars, cheaters, and unavailable to be in a relationship with her, leading her to repeatedly experience heartache and pain.

What Melisa discovered during her session with Michelle was that she was playing a very real and active role in perpetuating this vicious cycle. She uncovered the limiting beliefs that were having her attract men who would not love and accept her, and it all began with the way she saw and was relating to herself because of her physical disability.

During the session, Michelle said the words to Melisa, “The good news is that, if you created all of that, you can create something else… Something authentic, true, and bigger than the disability you were born with, because you are so much more than that!”

Well, we’re happy to say that Melisa listened, not only to Michelle, but to her heart, and, after working with us last year, she is now in a very happy and loving relationship!

And she’ll be sharing more about the steps she took to attract new love into her life on the  “Ready to Love Again: Moving Beyond Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Webinar on Monday, July 20th!

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CLICK HERE to join us on Monday evening for the “Ready to Love Again” Webinar!

Join us on Monday night to hear the steps Melisa took to break free from her old familiar patterns and attract a man who is not only available but loves and accepts her exactly the way she is!

CLICK HERE to reserve your spot now!

 


How Do I Let Go of a Past Relationship?

by Gladys Diaz

Lately, I’ve been getting emails and and having conversations with women from women around the world who are asking a similar question.

Whenever I receive 3 or more questions on the same topic, I believe it’s because there are many more women out there experiencing the same issue.

The question I keep getting is:

“How do I get over a past relationship so that I can be ready to love again?”

In today’s video, I give you some tips on how to let go of a past relationship so that you can welcome new love into your life.

I also make 2 very important invitations, so make sure you click on the image below to check them out!

 


 
Love and happiness beyond your wildest dreams are waiting on the other side of pain and loneliness! Claim them today by RSVPing “YES”

1) Click here to reserve your spot for  the “Ready to Love Again” Webinar!

2) Click here to schedule time to speak with us!

 


You Deserve Love and Happiness, Too!

by Gladys Diaz

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Today is such a happy day!  Ric and I are celebrating our 15th Wedding Anniversary!

This morning, he called me over to the stairs so that we could watch our boys playing together.  I looked over at him and said, “We made that!”  It was such an intimate moment!

He hugged me, and, when we finished hugging, I noticed we were standing in front of our wedding photo.

Looking at how happy we looked in that picture had so many memories start floating through my head!

I remember asking myself that night, “Is this really happening?  Is this dream really coming true?”

See, before meeting Ric, I was flat out heartbroken.  The pain I felt after losing my first husband was so deep and so overwhelming that I could physically feel it at time.

I was so lost in the heartache that I seriously wondered whether I would ever be able to laugh or smile again.

And I honestly believed that I would never be able to stop loving my first husband and open my heart to loving someone again.

To me, he had been my “The One,” and, with him gone, I felt like all of my hopes and dreams, as well as my chances at having a lifetime love had died with him.

I was terrified that I’d feel that pain and loneliness for the rest of my life, and I simply could not bear it!

I was convinced that I would be alone for the rest of my life.

As a smart and intelligent woman, I pride myself on being right a lot of the time, but I have to tell you that I’m so glad I was wrong!

Once I began doing my inner work, dealing powerfully with my fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs, I was able to break through them and attract the most loving, amazing, generous man into my life!

Had I held on to those fears and doubts, I would have stayed stuck in my misery, holding on to my heartache and pain, and cheated myself out of having more love and happiness in my life than I could have ever dreamed was possible!

And, I want the same level of love and heartache-free joy for you, too!

That’s why I am so excited about the the “Ready to Love Again: Moving Beyond Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Webinar Michelle and I are hosting on Monday, July 20th at 9:00pm ET!

In this webinar, we are going to show you how to break free from heartache so that you can welcome love back into your heart and life!

If you’ve been holding onto a past or dead-end relationship, unable to let go of the man you thought was you’re “The One”…

If you’ve been trying to get out there and meet someone but you just can’t seem to find anyone who compares to the man you loved…

And, if you’re tired of feeling lonely and hopeless about your chances of finding the love of your life…

…you need to be there!

 

In this webinar you will learn:

  • What makes it difficult to move beyond the heartache of a breakup
  • The steps you can take to move beyond your heartache and toward a new future
  • How to begin attracting new love into your life NOW!

 

To participate, simply click here to register and we’ll send you an email with the webinar details.

 

If you’re tired of feeling heartbroken and you’re ready to break free from the past and welcome love in, then make sure you attend the “Ready to Love Again: Moving Beyond Heartache to Your Heart’s Desires” Webinar on Monday, July 20th!

 

If I hadn’t let go of my heartache, it would have robbed me of the happiness I feel today as I celebrate 15 years of loving, being loved, and being blissfully married to Ric.

You deserve to be this happy, too, and this webinar could be the answer you’ve been hoping and praying for!

So make sure you click here to reserve your spot now!

 

P.S. I know you’re afraid.  I know you’re doubtful. I’m asking you trust us.

Let us show you how to leave your heartache behind!

Click here to reserve your spot now!


How a Dark Night Turned Into a Dream Come True!

by Gladys Diaz

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I was in a very dark place in my life…

16 years ago tonight, I was in a very dark space.

I had finally started getting to the place where I felt I could at least start going out to meet people. I didn’t feel ready to fall in love, but I did want to stop feeling the sadness and loneliness I’d felt since my husband had passed away.

There was one guy I knew who I’d been talking on the phone with. We’d gone out with a group once and then went out on a date, but he was very clear that he did not want to be in a relationship. I told him I felt the same way, but, as the weeks went on, I found myself calling him when he didn’t call me and leaving voicemail messages, texting him, and constantly trying to get on his radar (all the mistakes I now teach women to avoid making)!

We were supposed to go out one Friday night (I had asked him out!) and, when I hadn’t heard from him for several days, I decided on Friday morning that I’d been stood up.

All of my fears and insecurities around ever being able to love and be loved again came rushing to the surface. I cried until my eyes hurt and just kept repeating, “This is why it’s just better for me to be alone.”

Thankfully, my best friend was NOT going to leave me in that space, and she invited me to go out dancing that evening.

I decided that dancing with her was better than being in my small apartment alone, so we went out dancing.

Right before we walked in, I decided, “I’m just going to have FUN! I’m not going to think about him or about how hurt I feel. I really just want to have fun!”

And, my goodness, did I have fun!

I danced with everyone who asked me to. I probably danced with at least 12 different guys.

All except the one guy who kept staring at me from the DJ booth.

He was so cute and just kept bobbing his head to the music while holding his Corona.

We kept catching one another’s eyes, smile, and then I’d go back to dancing.

Long story short, right as I was getting ready to leave the bar, our eyes locked and he nodded his head for me to come over.

I was not about to walk across a dance floor to talk to some guy (!), so I mocked him and made the same gesture to him with my head. And he came over!

We talked for several hours and he asked me for my number (I was too scared to give him my cell phone number, so I gave him the number to my work pager number! Oy!)

I gave him a hug as he left and could not stop smiling.

I didn’t know that evening that he would call me the next day one minute after getting out of work.

I didn’t know that evening that we’d go out on our first date a couple of days later.

And I surely didn’t know that night that we’d be married a year later!

All I knew was that I was grateful that I hadn’t let the unhappiness of one moment stop me from allowing myself to experience a fun evening that, had I stayed home, could have resulted in me never having met him!

I don’t know what painful situation you’ve been through or are going through.

I don’t know why you’ve held on to a dead-end relationship or a broken heart for so long.

I don’t know why you won’t do what it takes to break through that pain and fear so that you can experience love again.

What I do know is that, unless something changes, nothing will change! You’ll keep feeling sad, hurt, and hopeless, and, meanwhile, be missing out on the opportunity to experience the love of a lifetime.

I also know that we can help you get to the other side of pain and suffering so that you can begin feeling the love and happiness you desire and deserve.

So, what can you do about it?

  1. Be real with yourself about the fact that, right now, you are the one standing in your own way. Whatever happened in the past has already happened. It is not happening right now. The only thing happening right now is whatever choices you are making that are stopping you from releasing yourself from the past so that you can experience love NOW!

 

  1. Write down a description of what it is you want to experience in a romantic relationship. And as you write it, believe it! For example: “I want a, fun, loving, passionate relationship where I feel completely loved and accepted for who I am!” Include the words that matter most to you in your description (love, trust, acceptance, honesty, etc.) and be really detailed in describing how you want to feel!

 

  1. Write down three steps you can take to begin moving in the direction of creating this type of relationship.
  • Do you need to create and post an online profile?
  • Do you need to get out of your house and actually start meeting people?
  • Do you need to apologize to your boyfriend or husband for something you’ve been doing that has been negatively impacting your relationship so that you can begin experiencing love and intimacy again?

Be clear in the action steps you are going to take and then give yourself a deadline on your calendar by when you will take each step.

 

Now, I get that it’s not always easy to do this kind of work yourself. You may feel like you’re not sure what to write or what’s standing in your way. You also may need someone to help hold you accountable so that you will actually do what you say you’re going to do.

That’s where we come in!

Now, this is my anniversary weekend, so I’m taking the weekend off, but I do have some spots open on my calendar for Monday and Tuesday of next week.

If you’d like to schedule time to talk on either of those days, go ahead and click the link below and schedule a time to talk. (Act fast, my calendar fills up quickly!)

And, since you have to wait a few of days before you can speak to me, I’ll send you a little something you can use between now and our call!

Click here to schedule time to talk!

I had no way of knowing 16 years ago that my life was going to change forever! There was no way I could have known that I was about to enter into my own love story of a lifetime!

I want the same for you! If you’re ready to take the first step toward your love story of a lifetime, click below, and let’s talk!

Click here to schedule time to talk!